Keep On Keepin’ On

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Life has a funny way of repeating itself. We sometimes can find ourselves in similar situations over and over again. The main theme of my life I’d have to say is heartache. And I don’t mean that in just a romantic way. Heart ache through betrayal from friends, enemies, even people I don’t even know – lies, conniving, plotting – just to see me fall. And throughout the years of being broken down and praying and crying out I always come back to the same word…WHY?

Why would God allow these things in my life? To teach me a lesson? Why am I continuously drawn to people who are waiting for me to turn around so they can stab me in the back? Why do people tell lies and get away with it? Why are they doing this to me? And what did I ever do to deserve such treatment?

In the past I’ve festered over these thoughts and feelings over long periods of time. But as I’ve grown in my faith, I’ve been able to accept it and KNOW there’s a purpose. There’s a reason. And while I do need to learn to not give my trust so easily, being a good person to people who end up taking advantage of that are suffering far more than I am. And rather than seeking revenge, I know it’s already been taken care of. Not necessarily by something bad happening to them, although I can’t deny it’s definitely crossed my mind wanting someone to get what they deserve, but I’ve learned that God’s timing is impeccable and perfect.

I could go on and on about the situations I’ve been in. From “friends” talking about me for no reason, to being pre-judged by people who don’t even know me, my ex’s entire family hates me because of a lie their family friend told about me, I’ve had people steal money from me, and others throw me under the bus to make themselves look good. I’m not sure if God is trying to make my skin thicker or what His plan is, but I do know for a fact I haven’t suffered in vain.

From an early age my parents and teachers at school would always say: “Do unto others, what you would want done to you.” Treat people how you would want to be treated, act with integrity, don’t lie, don’t do something that will hurt someone or their reputation, be kind, be generous, be loving, be genuine – at all times. I don’t understand why everyone hasn’t been taught these vital morals in life. I’ve even had self-proclaimed “Christians” do things against me and use me. It’s unbelievable and I’m constantly in awe of what people are capable of. My mom always says, “Don’t ever be surprised because everyone is capable of doing anything.” It’s true. It’s a sad truth, but I can’t let that keep me from continuing to do what is right.

There’s been only a couple times where I allowed someone to make me lose total control. Which I could have avoided easily, and regretted immediately after that I allowed someone to get to me like that. Most of the time though, since I wear my heart on my sleeve, in situations where I should be fuming in anger I end up crawling in a ball and sobbing. It hurts. I just can never understand.

Whether I’ve been left to celebrate my birthday alone, have had a “friend” try to get with my boyfriend in front of me, or been humiliated when I’ve never done anything wrong to anyone; rather than letting that make me bitter I’ve just learned to let those people go. I will never be afraid of letting new people in because that’s just where my heart is. I love having relationships with people and while I’ve had about a hundred different circle of friends so far, those who are true have never left and I’m ever so grateful for those few.

If you’re finding yourself in similar situations or feel like you can’t handle another person causing you pain; rest assured your pain has a purpose. While it may not seem so at first and sometimes things will get so hard you feel like your heart can’t take anymore, God’s plan will prevail and someday you will see what He had in store for you all along. This doesn’t mean that you won’t ever suffer, we’re all human and even those you love will let you down, but as long and you’re living in the Lord’s truth, you’ll be able to pick yourself up, give grace, and keep on keeping’ on.

Truth For Today

“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” – Galatians 6:9

“Do what is right and good in the LORD’s sight, so all will go well with you. Then you will enter and occupy the good land that the LORD swore to give your ancestors.” – Deuteronomy 6:18

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Jesus is My Boyfriend

I’ve been feeling compelled and empowered lately. Ironically, I’m feeling this way as a single woman. A newly single woman I might add, when normally after a break-up I’m sad. Ususally I’m still reminiscing, still looking at old photographs, trying to see what he’s doing…but I’m not. Not this time. It might have something to do with the fact that I KNEW he wasn’t right for me. But even then I think I was just grasping for a reason to stick it out. But then, God embraced me, and I let it go.

I was lied to…yet again. I was blind…yet again. I was believing in things that weren’t there…yet again. I absolutely believe in the quote that says “God allows people to enter our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime.” There’s something we can learn from everyone, every person we meet is not an accident. I admit I was a bit desperate to find love at the time. I went as far as joining an online dating website which I where I met my most recent boyfriend. Although I was talking to Him more than ever and actively pursuing God, I still really wanted to be with someone. And I needed to learn that I need to listen and not pursue anything that doesn’t glorify Him. I had feelings in the beginning that didn’t feel right with this guy, but I didn’t listen because I felt maybe I was being too picky, but I wasn’t. God revealed so much to me about this guy, He spoke to me and I finally believed that the bad feelings, were absolutely right on.

For the first time ever after I’ve been dumped or betrayed, I’m OK. I’m not looking for someone. I’m not grasping on for the life of me. I don’t want to go out on dates. I don’t want to put my identity into a relationship with another person. I want my identity to only be defined by how I live my life, what I stand for, and the most important relationship I will ever have: which is the one I have with Jesus Christ. That’s it.

So many young women make the grave mistake of not being content. Of fearing that they’ll never find anyone. Holding on to toxic relationships and tying themselves to people who are not for them. I challenge you to try something. Attach yourself to God. To Someone who is and has always been there and has never left you. Even when you think He isn’t there, He is. Most of the time he gives us ways out. He allows things to happen, he allows us to bear witness to things that SHOULD allow us to escape and realize this is not someone for us. But most women stay. They stay through the abuse, they stay through the disrespect, they stay through the unloving words and actions, they stay through the most horrendous things and don’t realize that God is trying so hard to lift your chin up to remind you of your worth. He’s trying to tell you “you’re beautiful”, He’s craving for you, He wants to dance with you in the moonlight, He wants to kiss your forehead goodnight, He wants to be the one to hug you when you’re feeling at your worst. You’re praying and waiting for the guy you’re with to do that for you, when you know they never will. A lot of women have that man, but if you don’t, why not let God be that for you until He allows the RIGHT man into your life?

I am so incredibly blessed. I have a wonderful, loving family. My few real friends are amazing and I feel more loved than ever. That’s because for the first time, I’m letting Him love me the way He’s always wanted to, but I ignored for so long. I don’t NEED a man to be happy. I don’t need to be chasing or pursuing anyone but Jesus. I have friends in bad relationships tell me “I’m not as strong as you, I can’t just let him go.” I’m going to tell you right now, I’m not strong. God is strong. Philippians 4:13 says “I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me.” It took me a while to build up courage, but He provides that. He’s my support system and He can be yours too. All you have to do, is let Him in. He’s waiting for you. Open your heart and let Him love you.

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